The word “frugal” is frequently synonymous with an unflattering list of words. The most common one I’ve heard is “cheap.” But what I’ve noticed is that when words like that are thrown around, they often represent a stereotypical idea of frugality. People who’ve adopted a frugal mentality might balk at those descriptors because they tend to discount, under-appreciate, and confuse this philosophy around money.
Every now and then I like to revisit the definition of frugality, as it bears repeating. This time, I figured I’d address a snapshot of the many myths I regularly hear regarding this way of living. The following are five popular assumptions/myths that people tend associate with frugal living.
Myth 1: Buy the cheapest products possible
If someone has a surface-level understanding of frugality, they tend to assume that I shop for the cheapest everything. From shampoo to razors to coffee to cars to bikes to phones, the myth is that frugal people scour the world for the cheapest option every time.
In reality, I tend to shop for the top and work my way down. I try to understand what the “best” products are selling and see if I truly “need” what they’re offering. Similarly, I search for similar abilities in more affordable products. Who wouldn’t want to save money and get the features of a more expensive product?!
Also, cheaper products don’t always pay off in the long run. Various problems can occur from poor resale values to early failure. I have two examples that come to mind. In both of the following instances, long-term planning pays off better than short-term savings.
First, disposable, plastic razors are one of the cheapest ways to shave upon looking at the face value. But these razors don’t last as long, rust quicker, and do not shave as closely. In total, that actually results in spending more money over time. How anti-frugal!
Second, a cheap Windows laptop might cost $400 to $500. Again, on face value, this seems cheaper than an Apple laptop for $900. It takes a critical eye to parse apart the savings. For starters, an Apple computer is more reliable and powerful than the ~$450 Windows computer. You’re paying for that though, so not very frugal yet. The real cost savings comes with resale value. Because of the power and dependability, Apple computers retain their total value for longer periods of time. That $900 purchase price degrades at a lesser percentage each month.
Myth 2: Never pay full price
This one is tricky. No one wants to pay full price for anything. Sales, deals, coupons, and special savings entice us. I promise, they affect my buying and likely sway you, too. Grocery stores and malls are full of these opportunities. Heck, some of us wait for weekly ads to make our purchases!
In the end, we hate paying full price so much that we will spend countless hours over our lifetimes scoping out deals. But the frugal person doesn’t necessarily focus on the sale to buy a product. The key is buying it consciously, with intention, and through savings — not credit. Being a frugal consumer means avoiding purchases because of sales. Sales shouldn’t be the catalyst for purchases.
When you focus on a new item for purchase, it’s important to consider the place it has in your household. New shoes might be vital to your job. Rather than focusing on the “savings,” concentrate on the value. What shoes will stand the test of time, be comfortable, and limit future purchases?
Like before, the full-priced option may actually be better than the sale deal. Evaluate sales carefully. End of year or last year’s models might actually be a great deal, though. The point is, this myth is reductionistic and oversimplifies the complicated task of staying frugal.
Myth 3: Avoid adventure
Personally, I never want my frugality to be boring, limiting, or burdensome to trying new things, experiencing cultures, and developing a greater appreciation of the world around me. While yes, travel tends to be expensive, there are ways to adventure and take advantage of the world around you.
Perhaps it includes attending a free concert or talk at a local university/library. Perhaps it means taking a long bike ride around your city. Perhaps it means strategizing a bonus miles credit card to reduce ticket costs.
Regardless of the method, travel and adventure can be made more frugal. It takes forethought and planning. While many people buy tickets on a whim or whenever they’re gearing up for a flight, frugal people tend to find dates earlier on and book tickets then. The savings is often greater further away from a flight date.
Even more, the frugal philosophy necessitates a new definition for adventure. It seems that many people associate spending money with “fun.” The reality is far easier. We needn’t spend money to enjoy life. Adventure is right out your door — all it takes is a perspective change and appreciation of the world’s natural offerings. Hike, run, read, walk, chat up a future mate — whatever!
Myth 4: If you must eat out, tip poorly
The more brutal stereotype of frugality states that we tend to cut costs everywhere we go. If we eat out, we’ll likely tip poorly because that’s an opportunity to save.
Frugality needn’t be at the cost of others. In fact, that’s an ethically dubious version of this cost-saving and life-affirming philosophy. Savings shouldn’t undercut another way of living or punish others. If you’re a poor tipper and don’t recognize that servers don’t make much as an hourly wage, you should avoid eating out altogether because that’s the more frugal option anyways.
Most of the time, I tip about 15 to 20 percent for good service. If it’s bad… Well, all rules are off. Eating out is a treat for me — rare compared to the amount I eat in. When I do treat myself, I try to be respectful to those serving me, as well.
Myth 5: It’s hard to maintain
We are not born into a world that advocates for frugality. Choosing this lifestyle takes years of relearning and backtracking. Surrounded by advertisements and marketing for products we likely could avoid or go without, we are not accustomed to avoiding purchases. In that sense, it can be challenging to initiate frugal living.
Once you’ve started living with less, reduced spending becomes more habitual and quotidian. It’s all about relativity. When spending is reduced gradually over time, the cuts are less effortful. Then, when you reach a basic level of spending, maintenance can occur.
This stage requires less consideration for purchases and decisions. Maintenance doesn’t require rethinking spending patterns, reformulating grocery lists, etc. All you need to do is continue at the same rate and frugality will be yours!
Every now and then, opportunities to buy something will crop up despite your maintenance, and you’ll feel the pull to purchase. When that occurs, it’s important to recognize what motivates your frugal life. Why did you start living frugally in the first place?
Frugality is a philosophy and way of living. And many of the myths and assumptions that people carry about frugality are wrong and/or exaggerated. It’s bigger than simply spending less. It is a conscious philosophical decision to save money where you can to enjoy what you love.
Chris says
I really dig the adventure portion. Many people think you have to spend many thousands to go on vacation. I spent approximately $500 for four tickets to Europe from the US. Not a bad deal. I’m going to pay way less than sticker for hotel rooms, too, with points.
our next life says
Hear, hear! Agree with every point here, and two jumped out specifically: We LOVE adventure, and actively pursue it. And, honestly, the kind of adventure that we love happens to be a lot cheaper than traditional flight-and-hotel travel. We love nothing more than backpacking, climbing mountains, sleeping in a tent on the edge of a cliff. And tipping. We always tip well — at least 20 percent, but often more. In truth, we wish servers were just paid fairly, so that restaurants didn’t get to have essentially free labor, but until that happens, we’ll keep tipping well to try to honor how hard those folks work. If we all dropped an extra dollar or two each time we each out, we’d barely notice it, but it would make a world of difference to most servers!
Adam @ AdamChudy.com says
I’m a big believer in buy less but buy the highest quality. I love the subreddit – Buy It For Life.
We also travel a lot but do it intelligently, with a lot of travel hacking.
Duchess says
I believe in buying the best you can afford. For years I bought cheap toasters which only lasted one or two years at the most. Ten years ago I bought a Dualit one and have not needed to replace it. Over the years each slice of bread toasted has cost me less money in this toaster than in the cheap toasters.
simpleisthenewgreen says
I consider myself a minimalist or simple living advocate, which natural leads to a low cost lifestyle. I never used to associate with the word frugal because I was never cheap or penny pinching. Then one day, I looked it up on dictionary.com and I saw that it can also be associated with reducing waste. I’m all about that in our throw-away, over consuming society!
Also, on the adventure note… I recently took a trip with others that involved going to a resort. It was the most boring vacation ever! To me, it seems that the less you spend on a vacation, the more adventure you will naturally get. Unfortunately, we live in such a sterile society that we all need to be pampered to have ‘fun’.
Dane Hinson says
So true in “buying the cheapest products possible”. There’s is nothing more frustrating than purchasing something twice because it was low quality. Sometimes being frugal is doing your research and buying a more quality product that will pass the test of time.
Kate @ Money Propeller says
I used to tip poorly, but I had read on some blogs that it’s not a proper thing to do and I felt very shy about it.
Suzanne says
I think frugality is here to stay in my life, despite enjoying luxury where available to me. I just returned from New York and was able to fly first class on JAL for $5.60 using my husband’s mileage account. I had booked a free flight from NY to Tokyo, in business class using miles on AA. However, the first leg was canceled and the new flight I was given left one hour later, causing me to probably miss my connection at LAX. I called their Five Star Service for gate escort in LAX (about $250) to help me make the connection at LAX. However, I was asked if I’d like a different flight out of JFK to solve the connection problem and was offered a seat in first class– nonstop JFK to Tokyo! Ironically, I was refunded 62,000 miles (I had spent 120,000 for the two connecting flights)! It was an incredible experience that involved a good bit of luck despite the initial adversity. A wonderful AA agent at their Five Star Service really took care of me!