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Running a household: how to manage the bills and budget

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 Running a household: how to manage the bills and budget

We’ve all been there; we look at our statement around payday and there just isn’t enough cash present. We haven’t been spending on luxuries such as holidays and cars but, for some reason, the figures just don’t seem to add up, even though we’ve been keeping an eye on them throughout the month. Of course, it only ever goes in one direction –we’re never pleasantly surprised by the amount of cash in our account, are we? Similarly, if we’re looking to move away from our parents and spread our wings by renting for the first time, we should make time to know that we’re going to be able to afford it.

 

So we need to budget, to make sure that our home and our children are fed and warm, with a roof over their head. Here’s how to start:

 

Expenses

You might be surprised by the rate at which some expenses build up. For example, this writer’s household was paying more than £100 in satellite subscription fees alone until recently. It required a brutal analysis and breakdown of what was going on: multi-room usage, broadband, UHD coverage and the odd boxing PPV were all adding up, plus packages for documentary channels that no-one was really watching.

 

There are several essentials that must be considered. We have to have a roof over our head, and we have to eat and sleep. We have to drive/travel, and we have to have at least some form of entertainment in our lives, otherwise we’re not really living. If we can delineate what we want, and what we need, we can start to crack down on what we can save.

 

Targets

What would you like to have at the end of the month? What is the minimum, and what would make you comfortable or happy? Take this figure and see if there are any avenues for saving money in your current outgoings. For example, when was the last time you changed (or at least researched) your utility providers? Or planned a shopping budget at the start of the week, cutting down on expensive ready meals/ingredients that are not used? Marrying this with any vouchers/coupons of note might save several pounds a week, and restrict the risk of ‘BOGOFs’ that don’t actually get you anywhere because you never use the free food.

 

Communication

Running a household should not just be your job when other people in the home can help. Explaining that savings have to be made, and that some of the changes are small enough to be barely noticeable, will save on arguments. Turning off lights when not in the room, and maybe cutting out one takeaway/cinema trip/luxury a week or month, should be acceptable by everyone in the home.

 

Seasons

Plan ahead to budget for the times of the year when life becomes more expensive; this includes Christmas, Halloween, birthdays, family events such as weddings/christenings, and other events. Knowing these occasions are coming means that you can keep some money in place so that you do not necessarily have to go into further debt. Also, don’t be afraid to say ‘No’ sometimes if you cannot afford something!

Filed Under: Money Tagged With: Budget

I’m Desperate For A Financial Makeover

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A year ago I read Burton Malkiel’s seminal text on investing, A Random Walk Down Wall Street, and concluded that it made sense to invest in exchange-traded funds (ETFs). He imparted a challenging message: people are inherently poor stock pickers, but we can be better through diversification and buy-and-hold strategies. ETFs would be a quick, affordable, engaging way to diversify, too.

Despite the logic, my brain wouldn’t relent — I wanted to invest in an individual stock. Like a horse being kicked and yanked to the right but continuing left, I decided, against my better judgment, to place an investment in a risky, small cap stock. I’d been following it for quite some time, and made a small prior investment. I wanted to put more in, though.

Only two weeks after doing so, I lost $400. How could this happen? Why did I fall for this logical fallacy and bias? I was berating my brain for the errors. The company looked poised for a rapid expansion. I had drunk the Kool-Aid.

I knew better than to make this recent individual investment, and did it anyways. Humbled, I was the definition of many of the investing problems and fallacies individuals have a habit of engaging in.

Like my flawed investment, I realized much of my financial strategies had become stale. Having money to invest was a new feeling, and the do-it-yourself route wasn’t working. I needed to refresh my checking, savings, and investment streams. And I wanted to feel secure in my financial future. Here’s how I analyzed and reviewed it all.

1. Analyze current accounts

Almost all banking goes through Ally Bank. With 1% and 0.10% on savings and checking accounts, respectively, Ally is an industry leader. I’ve been with them for years, and appreciate the domestic ATM-fee reimbursements and free checks.

After paychecks are deposited into the account, about 40-50% of the money goes to regular, immediate bills. Then, another large portion gets spent on food and regular expenses throughout the month. This variable amount is something I continue to work on and struggle with. Reducing food budgets is something I’ve written about before, and will likely talk about again. It’s vital for a frugal life. But after all is said and done, there’s only about $300-400 in leftover funds.

Right now, I’ve been putting the surplus into a savings account. Additionally, I’ve been investing in individual stocks, but with mixed results. At this point, and with such little money at the end of every month, I need to be smart about what I do with any extra funds. These funds will be used to travel for job interviews, licensure, work clothes, moving expenses, and other emergencies. It’s important to have a fair amount on hand for all these moments.

After looking at the accounts, I can see that I have two piles: a checking and savings. There aren’t specific accounts for individual goals. Money is one big slush fund of fun.

Another major unaddressed part is regular investing. As mentioned it’s a weakness within my current financial management.

International travel has been also concern financially; not necessarily the cost, as I use bonus miles for most travel, but the currency exchanges. When I traveled to Colombia about a year ago, I needed local currency and had no method to get cash without fees. It cost me quite a bit to talk to a money exchange business and have them take my USD for Colombian Pesos.

2. Consider other accounts, options

Based on this analysis, I will stick with Ally Bank as my primary checking and savings method. Direct deposits will continue to flow to this checking account first. The goal will be to use this to manage all regular bills and upcoming expenses. Ally has really earned my respect over the years, and I’m happy to stay with them.

Staying with Ally doesn’t mean I’ll be staying with the same strategy, though. I’ll be opening up a new savings account and calling it, “Vocational Expenses.” This will be specific for interview, moving, and other work-related expenses incurred over the next three years. Now, how much should go in here and how fast? I will likely need $4000-5000 over the next few years, but this is a rough estimate. To meet this target, I’ll deposit $250 per month automatically out of every paycheck (Ally checking account) for the next 16 months on the first of the month.

International travel currency fees have been abysmal. To remedy this problem, I’ll be opening up a Charles Schwab Investor Checking account and solely using my Capital One Quicksilver credit card. The interest-earning checking account provides most of the features that an Ally Bank affords, but includes ATM-fee reimbursements for international ATMs and no foreign transaction fees for purchases out of country. The account is widely regarded as the best travel debit card in existence. And unlike Ally’s checking debit card, Schwab’s debit card has a chip and pin. In preparation for any travel, I will place a budgeted travel amount into the Investor Checking account, but leave it at low levels, as there’s no minimum balance necessary. Moreover, I’ll use the Capital One Visa for all international transactions, as it has no foreign transaction fees.

The last revised strategy will be a regular, monthly deposit into a taxable Wealthfront account of $100 on the first of the month. Wealthfront provides low-cost (and free for those under $15,000 invested) asset management, and automates the entire process. They choose real estate, emerging markets, and domestic stocks. They reinvest dividends and provide timely updates.

Now, I don’t need to worry about rebalancing my portfolio or looking for low-load or low-fee funds. I’m exceptionally happy with their service and professionalism. Because I might need the funds sooner than retirement, I’ll be placing them in a taxable, brokerage account for now. Eventually, when I have more cash flow and income, I will place more in my Roth IRA to invest without incurring additional taxes.

3. Review decisions and new strategy

With any financial management plan, there are going to be hiccups. When you make as little as me, automating savings and investing helps, but can also hinder my plans. Sometimes, I don’t have enough money one month and can’t make the savings necessary. At the same point, the plan motivates me to earn and save more. Maybe it’ll even encourage me to save on food!

As I analyzed and reviewed my current actions and future plans, I reflected on interest rates and banking business. Today, banks are not in the business of encouraging you to save. They nickel and dime customers — especially brick and mortar banks — for every little thing. Checks? That’ll cost you. Overdraft fees? You bet. Minimum balance not met? Say hello to my lil’ fee.

Banks earn more when you spend. They profit when you’re in peril; a tragic irony that places their interests (pun intended) above yours. From car loans to mortgages to credit debt, banks increase their margins by marketing these products to their customers.

To save requires great care, forethought, and hours of hard work. To spend takes the swipe of your card.

Reviewing and updating your financial plan is one of the most important actions you can do. If anything, it helps you understand your financial fitness and maximize interest earnings. And maybe still, it challenges you to look for new ways to save and scrimp.

Filed Under: Save Money Tagged With: Accounts, automated, automation, Banking, Banks, Budget, Checking, Financial, investing, savings, Wealthfront

Sometimes I Forget We’re At War

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We are spending all of this money for death and destruction, and not nearly enough money for life and constructive development…when the guns of war become a national obsession, social needs inevitably suffer.
– Martin Luther King

I leaned over to my girlfriend, and conspiratorially – by heart – recited the Pledge of Allegiance: “One Nation, under God, indivisible….” Even as I said the words, I was surprised by my own fluency. How could I remember this pledge? The answer was simple: I was a product of the American education system. Thus, I spent every morning of class – Kindergarten through 12th grade – up, at attention, and announcing allegiance to my country of birth, as if it was sensitive to my voice. Without my verbal confirmation of unwavering support, the class and country would look down upon me – not just because I’d be sitting down.

Amidst my puberty, horrible awkwardness with the opposite sex, and raging hormones displaced on parents, America fought wars. I vividly remember biology class in 6th grade, when the loudspeaker croaked alive – class would be cancelled. Then, teachers sobbed and kids went home. My parents hurried as fast as they could – to hug me and check to see if I was alright. Of course I was – this was Pittsburgh, mah! But we couldn’t stop watching the news for weeks. Over and over again, the World Trade Center towers fell.

I had stood atop those towers a year prior. My 12-year-old mind couldn’t compute how some of the tallest buildings in the world became shorter than our house – the great had fallen. I was more concerned and interested with rollerblading, biking, and playing videogames.

Our leader delivered rousing messages of revenge. They would pay. To us nincompoops, “they” was this exceedingly abstract term. Who were “they?” Could you be “they?” Could we be “they?” Then “they” became “terrorists.” The terrorists who would pay.

We were told the terrorists couldn’t accept our way of life. The terrorists couldn’t understand our freedoms. The terrorists couldn’t accept our Westernized culture where women could work, roam, and divorce as they please.

Across the Muslim-majority world, America aggressed. Afghanistan, Iraq, the Horn of Africa, Libya, and other sovereign nations felt the boot of U.S. military. We killed, slaughtered, massacred, bombed, shot, and burned. Thousands of service members and “enemy combatants” died. An unknown number of civilians also perished.

When I was 17, I almost enlisted in the U.S. Army. I wanted to be a 17X (“Seventeen x-ray”). This new position short-tracked enlisted folks into a Special Forces career. I idolized their bravery, willpower, and strength. But I backed down after considering what else I could do with my life – at least for the next few years. Nonetheless, I admired every other friend and neighbor that committed to this hard choice.

All these words – written in past tense – belie the reality of my childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood. Sometimes I forget we’re still at war even today. Fifteen years and counting, the War on Terror remains unresolved and unsolved. We cannot completely write these tragedies in history books and say we’ve moved onto a new chapter. We cannot say this will be last combat troop found blown up by an improvised explosive device or dictator that suffers our wrath. We’re not finished yet.

In 2015, the War on Terror was estimated to cost at least $1.7 trillion. No, writing that word – “trillion” – doesn’t do it justice. Let me write out every zero behind it.

$1,700,000,000,000.

The first three zeros are for a great day’s work. The second three zeros give you a lawyers’ salary. The third three zeros will buy you a fleet of Airbus aircraft. The next three zeros give you a greater gross domestic product than countries. And the next digit – the number for trillion – buys you a country or two or three.

This level of wealth could’ve bought us a lot of influence in the world, rebuilt our crumbling infrastructure, provided greater humanitarian relief for refugees, and more. But we didn’t think twice within this representative democracy to vote in representatives who would vote in favor of war repeatedly. Those votes were easy in comparison to providing safe bridges, smooth roads, clean water, affordable education, universal healthcare, and/or subsidizing clean energy. The initiatives that would’ve directly impacted our lives for the better – those were the partisan battles of my adolescence. And even if we enacted all those plans, we would still have money leftover to feed the impoverished, house the homeless, and have a roaring economy.

We chose war.

This choice cost us every year as taxpayers, too. About 18-20% of the federal budget goes towards “National Defense” spending. For every dollar, we burn 20% with the goal of keeping us safe. If I snatched away one-fifth of every paycheck from you, wouldn’t you do something about it? Would you let me siphon off your hard-earned dollars?

But I don’t hate all taxes. In fact, I love them! They pay for libraries, fire and police departments, National Guard troops, family members’ disability payments, and Medicare. They provide for those in need; albeit, they could do better. They provide grants and funding for disadvantaged populations to go to college; albeit, they could do better. They provide unemployment support if we lose our jobs suddenly; albeit, they could do better.

We’ve spent 15 years punishing the Muslim-majority countries without resolution. If bloodshed is not enough, are we not sick of war’s economic costs for those at home and abroad? Are we not tired of losing one-fifth of our work? Are we not tired of our worldwide reputation of war before diplomacy?

Years passed where I dreamt of serving my leaders. I wanted to take care of soldiers in combat as a psychologist. I used to take great pride in our flag, to stand with allegiance, and be a good citizen. I loved when I unwrapped my U.S. passport for the first time to flip through the pages of history and read our proud declarations of freedom. But I’ve been changed by a war more than half my life.

Filed Under: Social Justice Tagged With: America, Budget, federal, spending, tax, taxes, Terror, Terrorism, US, War

How Psychological Pressures Change Your Spending

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Over the last month, I’ve been working on my dissertation. While writing this tome, I’m continuing clinical work at a local VA, instructing two courses, and creating scholarly papers. This might be the busiest moment of my life. And in about a month, I’ll need to hand over a draft to my adviser. And he’ll decide “go” or “no go.” My future depends on it.

The symptoms of this pressure are powerful. I’ve struggled to write, become a nervous wreck, and have unending indigestion. My stomach burbles and gurgles with unease. Simultaneously, Frugaling has been unusually quiet, and I’ve been shocked by the emails from regular readers wondering how I’m doing (you’re so sweet!). I’ve been unable to write as much as I like.

Eventually the dissertation writing will end. But I can’t help but think, I need to succeed. I’m in control of this moment, and I’ve never been more motivated.

Unfortunately, as I’ve focused on this one area, a handful of others things have faltered. Control in one category, has led to failures in others. It’s like my brain can only concentrate on a few things at once; then, it descends into reactive, non-conscious action. My reptilian brain takes over, and I let autopilot handle the controls.

My ideals of frugality and simple living have taken a back seat to this burden. Even after two years of Frugaling, I’m embarrassed to say I still struggle to maintain a budget when the stress hits the fan. With nearly every moment hunched over my keyboard, hammering away at keys incessantly, old habits are returning.

The inner voice says, “I’m too hungry to wait for home. I want to treat myself for writing so much. I need a break – give me that large popcorn.” Me, me, me, me, me. I crave candy, quick meals, and snacks at strange times. Yes, I want that fatty burger and fries. Yum! All I want is to swipe a worry away and not feel guilty for doing so. Suddenly, I can spend $60-70 in a day’s worth of food. Poof!

These moments highlight the complexity of changing a budget and spending less. We can make great alterations to our lives, and still relapse and regress. It happens. And I think I know why.

See, the first 24 years of my life, I didn’t watch spending, create a budget, cook at home, avoid student/car loans, bike to school/work, or look for ways to save. My brain developed a pathway and logic to deal with nearly everything over those years, including when to eat out, buy a car, etc. Frugality wasn’t in the mix, and it got me into 5 figures of debt.

It’s hard to change anything; especially if that’s all you’ve known. The neuronal structure has developed a keen appreciation for certain types of rewards and feedback. Simply put, my brain expects me to spend when I’m stressed. To change this pattern of behavior requires repeated corrective action, recognition of when I’m slipping, accountability from friends/family, and other reward mechanisms.

One of my psychology textbooks curiously likes to say that after about 6 months of change, a habit can stick. Well, I’m here to tell you that’s not always the case. Despite a couple years of successful behavioral change, I occasionally fight to regain control and relapse to old spending.

Various factors work against me. Twenty-four years of bad habits and a society full of encouraging messages about immediate gratification stack the deck. It’s an uphill battle, but I’m better at waging it than ever before.

I might not have perfected my budget but change has occurred. Today, I can realize when everything is falling apart – spending has gone haywire – and stop. Today, I can write this letter of accountability to you all. Today, I can admit faults while acknowledging strengths.

Frugality isn’t about dogma or perfection. We’re on a journey – together – to find ways to save, spend less, and recapture control when we lose it. There’s power in these lessons and the brain – while stubborn to change – does slowly cooperate.

Filed Under: Save Money Tagged With: brain, Budget, busy, change, college, dissertation, Habits, Life, Psychology, school, spending, Stress, Work, Writing

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