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Conquer Your Urge To Spend?

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Deep within the recesses of your mind are primal, animalistic urges to spend more than you should. We are born and bred to consume and prosper – shopping comes easy. As the Black Friday madness shows, we can easily gorge on the materialistic desires that haunt us. When we set budgets and realize our fallibility, the urge to spend can easily be replaced by grit to overcome. It is at this point that we are effectively fighting our demons and the unbalanced budget.

Fighting is tiring

But have you ever been in a fight? Whether emotional or physical, fighting is tiring and draining and scary. It strikes a similar but different evolutionary instinct, and can lead to severe psychological distress. Frequently, future frugalers get frustrated by their urges to spend, and punish themselves by cutting credit cards and focusing on creating a rock-solid monthly budget. I’m afraid this energy is misdirected, at times.

Oft-repeated cliches about making more than you spend and creating an emergency fund are abstract concepts, goals that miss the steps needed to get there. More fundamentally, even the steps ignore the reasons behind your desire for change – to become more frugal. What is motivating you to save money and have a better life?

From foundations comes successes

See, what the personal finance world is missing is credit for the psychological foundations. Everyone comes with a certain amount baggage and history. This past influences how we treat money and save (or not). Without recognizing this past, we may not be able to recognize where we err in the future.

In the past, I had a piss poor habit of going to malls to browse and shop because I loved the smiles and energy. The aromatic storefronts welcomed me, clothes glistened from spotlights, and the service was friendly. The problem was most pronounced when I felt alone and/or unfulfilled. Bottom line, for me, shopping and spending beyond my means was directly related to loneliness and purposelessness.

Realizing your own need shopping and/or unbalanced spending leads to a foundation for change and budgetary hope. A house cannot be built without a foundation. But more fitting, a house cannot be afforded without a budgetary foundation. How do you become aware of your motivation for wanton spending?

quicksand cat can haz cheeseburgerThe metaphor of quicksand

Remember those old movies where the bad guy falls into a pool of quicksand, and the more he struggles, the faster it sucks him under? In quicksand, struggling is the worst thing you can possibly do. The way to survive is to lie back, spread out your arms, and float on the surface. It’s tricky, because every instinct tells you to struggle; but if you do so, you’ll drown. –Russell Harris

Debt and financial despair is like quicksand. The more you fight to get out of it, the harder it seems. It is easy, when you’re working to improve your situation, to berate and punish yourself for these ills. Fortunately, there’s another way – a paradox of sorts to becoming frugal and financially solvent.

As the quote says, if you build a foundation for a different reaction to your struggles, you may find calm. In calmness, we can begin righting our course and find a balanced budget. Deficits can be defeating, but they don’t necessitate a battle.

Fighting, flexing, attacking, and breaking your need for spend is a recipe for disaster. Rather, relax and reason are the solution for a positive future. Now, you’re ready to save money with mindfulness!

Filed Under: Save Money Tagged With: Awareness, Budget, Calm, debt, Fight, Finances, Frugal, Habits, Mindfulness, Psychology, Quicksand, Shopping, Solvent

The Costs Of Following A Dream

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This is a guest article from Stefanie! She’s trying to find ways to stretch her budget in one of the most expensive cities out there, New York City. A graduate of New York University’s drama and psychology programs at the height of the financial crisis, Stefanie discovered the world of financial planning out of necessity. Thanks for sharing your insight, Stefanie!

For those who don’t know, I am a professional theatre actress. At 27 years old, I’ve never made more than 30k in a year. Most of the time it’s somewhere between ten and twenty thousand; although, I want to say closer to ten. I face frequent and long periods of unemployment. After every job I don’t know when or even IF I will work again (in my field).

I can supplement my income by working in a place that doesn’t interfere with my job search (aka, auditioning, which limits me to service, babysitting, trades show hostessing, bartending, and any other place you’d expect to find a wannabe, or rather, a professional actor). My career also necessitates that I live in one of the most expensive cities in the world which compounds the fiscal strain.

While I’ve found a way to make the financial implications of my chosen career path work for me, the desire for a home, family, stability, etc., makes me question my endurance in living this nomadic and uncertain lifestyle. I see friends and coworkers deferring their other life dreams and continuing to tackle “the grind” at 30, 40, 50, 60, and beyond. And I don’t mean the grind of daily work, I mean the grind of getting up at six AM to stand in line for an audition, run across town to get to the next audition, take what little money there is to buy new headshots or take an acting class, then rush to work at four o’clock and close out at two or three in the morning. It’s the grind of trying to survive on passion.

New York City Stefanie

It’s hard. They said it would be. I knew it would be. The only thing I didn’t count on was the trajectory. In most professions, careers are linear. There may be unexpected setbacks or a change that requires a temporary hardship, but generally speaking, you can progressively work your way up in a logical manner.

In my field, it’s more like riding a rollercoaster. You get a job, it ends, and you start back at square one. To be fair, it’s not quite square one because you develop relationships with people, theatres, and companies every time you work. These experiences are invaluable and have actually gotten me subsequent jobs. But still, you have to start over again, unemployed and waiting in the audition line until that opportunity or a new one arises. There’s no telling if it will be better or worse than the job you had before.

Sure, it’s up to you to choose which offers you accept, but when you’ve been waiting tables for a few months, it’s really tough to turn down that performing job, even if it is in Phoenix, in the middle of the summer, for $300 a week. Plus, you don’t get your health insurance benefits if you don’t meet the 12-work week quota. Sometimes you have to accept a job where you’re essentially LOSING money just to qualify for insurance.

It’s hard to take a step backward, in either pay or prestige, but such are the realities when “living the dream”.

The only way I’ve managed to handle a lifestyle where I have so little control is to empower myself where I can, and financial planning is an excellent way to do it. Knowing the uncertainty of my future, financially and otherwise, I put systems and strategies in place to reach my goals regardless of the “dream” trajectory.

I save diligently, I have a substantial emergency fund, and I’m cultivating my “side hustles” like crazy. Maybe in the future, my other dreams will require me to put this one on the backburner. But for now, while I can, performing is priority number one – even if it means sacrificing a stable income, certain employment, likely advancement, and the benefits that come with all of those things. Some dreams are worth fighting for.

Filed Under: Make Money, Save Money Tagged With: Acting, Budget, Career, Costs, Dream, Headshots, Side Hustles, Side Jobs

A Terrific, Terrifying Article About Poverty

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Today, I happened upon a wonderful article about what poverty is like. After reading it, I knew I needed to share it with you all. Poverty, debt, and working till you drop are all terribly interlinked. The following are a few highlights:

Rest is a luxury for the rich. I get up at 6AM, go to school (I have a full courseload, but I only have to go to two in-person classes) then work, then I get the kids, then I pick up my husband, then I have half an hour to change and go to Job 2. I get home from that at around 1230AM, then I have the rest of my classes and work to tend to. I’m in bed by 3.

Nobody gives enough thought to depression. You have to understand that we know that we will never not feel tired. We will never feel hopeful. We will never get a vacation. Ever. We know that the very act of being poor guarantees that we will never not be poor.

I make a lot of poor financial decisions. None of them matter, in the long term. I will never not be poor, so what does it matter if I don’t pay a thing and a half this week instead of just one thing?

Poverty is bleak and cuts off your long-term brain.

Read the article in its entirety here (it’s worth a read): Why I make terrible decisions, or, poverty choices.

Filed Under: Social Justice Tagged With: Budget, debt, jobs, low-income, management, money, poor, poverty, school

Master Your Budget With Google Wallet Card

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Google Wallet Debit Card AnnouncementCredit, Debit, Or Cash?

I’m constantly looking for ways to budget better, as it can be challenging in a new, digital epoch of swipes and signatures. Last month, I decided to follow Dave Ramsey’s advice and only use cash. For 2 weeks, I banished all credit and debit cards from my wallet.

Over the course of the experiment, I struggled to use cash. Despite all the whimsical benefits of budgeting via cash and envelopes, the good ol’ paper currency seemed antiquated and made for difficult money management. As a near-religious Mint.com user, all of my transaction history and spending trends were lost in the data-less use of cash.

Now, there’s a new solution called the Google Wallet Debit Card!

Cash Didn’t Work… For Me

Recently, I was interviewed by a writer for LearnVest.com that asked whether I was still using cash – had I made the switch more permanently after the experiment? I laughed and said, “No. In fact, I don’t have any cash in my wallet at all.” I haven’t really used cash as a primary payment method since middle school. When I got to high school, I opened a savings and checking account, and the debit card quickly replaced the greenback.

After the experiment, I was left floundering around the questions about how to budget better. As an avid swiper, I realized the consequences in spending that could occur. Researchers from MIT’s Sloan School of Management found that:

In studies involving genuine transactions of potentially high value we show that willingness-to-pay can be increased when customers are instructed to use a credit card rather than cash. The effect may be large (up to 100%) and it appears unlikely that it arises due solely to liquidity constraints. In addition to demonstrating the effect, we provide a methodology for detecting it, and our findings suggest a source of variance to test alternative explanations.

The Fourth Option: Google Wallet Debit Card

Google Wallet Debit Card Swipe Image

Yesterday, Google announced a perfect solution for the digitally-inclined: Google Wallet Debit Card. The card is just like any other; in fact, it’s a Mastercard with the power of Google. It can link credit cards, bank accounts, and loyalty cards in a neat little application for iPhone and Android. But now, there’s a new, physical card to help making shopping easy.

Ever since Dave Ramsey introduced the envelope system with cash to manage a spending plan, I’ve been looking for ways to incorporate that philosophy into my life. Google Wallet is finally that solution. The debit card uses the balance in your Google Wallet, which functions much like a PayPal account. Once your balance is empty or too low, the purchase won’t go through.

What Makes Me Excited About This New Product?

The Google Wallet Card operates much like a prepaid debit card, except it’s entirely digital, reloadable, and has hardly any fees. I have the power of a bank by utilizing Google Wallet’s features. I can send money to friends, receive payments, and now I can spend the money wherever I go.

The most important part is that it allows you to set strict budgeting goals for each week. For instance, let’s say I want to limit my food spending (groceries, lunches, and dinners) to $400 per month. If I load my card with $100 per week, and stop swiping after that – because there’s nothing left – I can effectively stick to my budget. Just like the envelope system, I’d know exactly how much is left (digitally) – no more, no less.

Filed Under: Best Credit Cards, Save Money Tagged With: Budget, Dave Ramsey, Google, Google Wallet, Mastercard, Mint.com

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