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Find A Roommate And Financial Freedom

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As a student, I feel like a pinball getting smacked around from location to location. I’ve moved about 9 times in my adult life. I’ve lived with significant others, friends, acquaintances, and even by myself. I trekked across campuses, cities, and the country. After two years living alone, I found a roommate and will make my tenth move this summer. Today, I wanted to spend some time reviewing my current and future living situations, a hesitancy regarding roommates, and the effect on my budget.

My Man Cave

Two years ago, when I received my admission to graduate school and decided to move to the Midwest, I was ecstatic, but clueless about housing. I didn’t need much – just a roof over my head and basic utilities. I jumped at an opportunity to live in the university apartments. I hadn’t seen the outside or inside of them, but the price ($435 a month for a one bedroom) was unbeatable.

Look at these digs!
Look at these digs! Perfect for a window air conditioner.

What I found was both decrepit and lovable. The apartments bubble with rust. A perma-dirty linoleum floor greets my toes when I slide out of bed each morning – you never get used to the cold. The faucets run a yellow/red when they’re not run regularly. My circular thermostat doesn’t account for certain parts of the apartment, which seem to be unprotected from the harsh, Midwestern cold. Cinder blocks are stacked high on the walls, painted over in what can only be assumed to be lead paint. A thick coating of asbestos lines the ceilings.

Despite misgivings, it’s my home, and I love it. Actually, I find it comical how much I don’t want to leave my current apartment, and I’m only leaving because the university is demolishing them.

Forced to move again, while balling on a serious budget with severe time constraints, seemed impossibly difficult. Then, the university notified everyone that new apartments were being built in time for my departure from the old ones. I could just move right into them!

Luxury Living At A Price

Over the last decade or so, the university considered a construction project to repair and rebuild the flood-damaged, aged, asbestos-filled apartments. Year after year seemed to pass without resolution. When I moved in summer 2012, I heard the whisper of change – a private bidder on public lands.

Then, a resolution quickly swept over the university apartment system. New buildings, contractors, and contracts would be drawn. The private company would revitalize this community with opportunity, design, and (supposedly) affordability. Tenants would see a brightened exterior and feature-filled interior. The costs would unfortunately need to increase, but we were assured they’d be manageable.

Something seemed askew about allowing private bidders onto public, university property, but the messages seemed positive. A few months later I found out the price: $875 per month for a one bedroom. In other words, more than 100% what I paid when I first moved!

Despite balling on a budget, I resigned to the fact that my 60-70 hour workweek wouldn’t enable me to tour many places. I would accept whatever they required. I signed a lease last year, much to my dismay and confusion. How could the university charge $875 per month for student housing?

Wake Up And Smell The Budget

Even though the price of rent was steep, I relished my independence, at the expense of my budget. I wanted to be frugal, but not that frugal. This new rent would decimate everything I worked towards over the last 10 months. I balanced my budget and created a tiny surplus for each month. But paying $875 a month would mean losing about $3000-4000 per year, plus student loans with at least 6.8% interest APR. I can’t even calculate the true cost of this decision.

Over the course of this semester, I’ve been working hard at not working. Essentially, I reached burnout, and to counteract these notoriously awful feelings, I decided to spend more time going out with people. Being able to socialize and meet new people has been one of the best experiences of my life. It’s kept me sane amidst my crazy-busy life.

Thankfully, meeting people also meant finding those in similar situations: looking for roommates. Over time I found someone that was excited about living together and could afford to split a two-bedroom apartment. The mental math was easy: rent would be $550 per month.

The challenge for me was realizing my prejudices towards having roommates. In the end, I realized that opting for the expensive rent was a cop-out to finding a roommate and managing my delicate budget. The reality was that I didn’t have independence until I was free from debt. I’m looking forward to having a new roommate, paying off even more student loan debt, and freeing myself from the burden of an unbalanced budget.

What have you done to save on rent, housing, etc.? What do you think about living with roommates? Any recommendations for me?

Filed Under: Save Money Tagged With: apartment, Budget, Burnout, Finances, freedom, Frugal, graduate school, housing, moving, rent, roommate, Student Loans, university

Warby Parker Prescription Glasses Review: Frugal And Fashionable? (Updated!)

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Should you buy a pair of Warby Parker prescription glasses?

Ugh, I’ve been delaying the inevitable: I need new prescription glasses. My old ones are scratched, beat up, and my eyes have changed over the last few years. I can’t wait any longer, but I’ve had a difficult time finding a frugal and fashionable pair of prescription glasses.

80% of the market is owned by one company

If you venture into any LensCrafters, Pearle Vision, Target Optical, and/or Sears, you’ll find a curious coincidence: The brands and price structure are the same. An Italian-based company, Luxottica, is behind most of the prescription glasses you’ll find at those stores. With a crushing grip on production and sales, the company dominates the margins and swarms consumers. In fact, they own 80% of world’s major eyewear brands.

Over the years, I’ve supported this company – whether I wanted to or not. They own brands like Oakley, Ray-Ban, and Oliver Peoples, while making co-branded products for Burberry, Coach, and many other companies. Chances are, you’ve helped the company’s bottom line.

Warby parker prescription glasses review logoSay hello to Warby Parker

While I wanted something frugal and fashionable, I thought I’d have to sacrifice and buy a no-name, standard frame. Fortunately, I found a growing company that’s mixing up the glasses market: Warby Parker.

The founders of Warby Parker realized the aforementioned fact – that one company has near-complete pricing power – and decided to throw a wrench in the system. They used their Wharton Business School education to analyze the supply chain and found a Chinese glasses manufacturer (the same one as Luxxotica) to make their frames. Now, the company is run like a tech titan and has even received a variety of angel investments and seed money.

Their business model is reminiscent of Zappos.com. Customers can purchase frames online, upload a copy of their vision prescription, and in a few days the frames are yours. Likewise, their customer service handled all my questions in a respectable and timely manner. But there’s more that makes Warby Parker unique.

Free, at-home try on and returns

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This is what my Warby Parker at-home try on kit looked like!

Without vision insurance benefits for a new pair of glasses or lenses, I wasn’t able to find much in my price range before Warby Parker. Unlike Luxxotica’s exotic pricing, most WP frames are about $95, ship free, and include premium lenses (anti-reflective and scratch resistant).

What about trying them on before you spend the money? All you have to do is browse through their website, pick up to 5 frames, and they’ll ship them to you to try on.

When I received my package about four days later, I immediately tried them all on and picked a pair that worked for me. I packed the container, with the five frames, and shipped it back via UPS, hopped online to their website and purchased the exact one I wanted.

The process could not be more convenient – you get prescription frames direct to your doorstep! I’m exceptionally happy about the experience and will purchase again.

Do you know of any other places you can get frugal and fashionable prescription glasses?

Update: Just received my brand new pair of Warby Parker prescription glasses! The entire experience was flawless and the glasses are awesome. I will definitely be choosing this frugal option again!

Filed Under: Save Money Tagged With: benefits, frames, Frugal, Glasses, insurance, luxxotica, optics, prescription, vision, Warby Parker, WP

The Debt Breaking Point: A Student Reforms His Budget

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If your budget looks anything like this truck, you’re in trouble.

As a student, we are presented a nearly blank check in the form of student loans and financial aid packages (aka, more student loans). It can be hard to resist taking out more than you actually need. But once you open the intravenous drip of federal funds, it can be hard to quit it – hard to reduce your liabilities.

A close friend of mine confided in me that he was broke. The credit card debt had taken over. It wasn’t supposed to work out this way. He had student loans, but he knew better. Something had happened; sort of inexplicable, really. His expenditures soared, but the income was stagnant.

After realizing his budget couldn’t right itself, he scrambled to find help with friends and family. Fortunately, they supported him financially and he’s been fixing his broken budget. The following are some excerpts from our conversation (via email), as he’s learned a lot about what drove him to this level.

Romantic relationships and money

Our conversation ran the gamut, but for a moment, he focused on the impact of relationships and money. Implicitly, there’s a pressure as man (whether there should be or not) to treat and offer to pay – to be a provider.

I like the thought too about expectations, the impact on relationships (if one partner has to suddenly cut back). Part of my expectation (related to gender role socialization) has made it tough for me. I’m so used to being able to buy nice things for Susie, to pay for her dinner, to treat her to nice surprises (fuck, even for little things like buying flowers).

He ran out, and in sharing this with his partner, she was surprisingly accepting, supportive, and helpful. It can be difficult to admit budgetary defeat, and the longer it goes unnoticed, untamed, and denied, the deeper the hole can become. Here are some things he learned from confronting and sharing this realization:

…She’s been great about the whole thing. I think she’s honestly relieved a bit. She’s been much better at being frugal than me (more self-disciplined and better at handling money) from day one. I think she’s been very aware that marrying me means joining with my maelstrom of ego-driven impulse buys, not effortfully considering the true cost (long term) of my purchases, whether I can afford things in reality, and my staggering student loan debt.

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Shopping and going out can be easy – too easy.

Last May, I realized I was sinking, and attempted to change everything because I didn’t want my debt to destroy a loving relationship. Seemingly, by confronting and asking for support from others (emotional and/or financial), the way back can be made easier. My friend decided he needed to start from scratch and analyze the budgetary gaps where money was disappearing.

The sink is shipping… How do I take back control?

For me, I had a similar experience to your 7 day challenge. I had so many little expenditures I didn’t realize (holes in the hull of my “finance boat” if you will). I had far less variety in food while I was getting the hang of it. I made rice & beans and had it for like 6 meals. I changed a few things up, would add cheese or salsa. I would wrap it in a tortilla or just have in a bowl. And I would intersperse a McDonald’s dollar menu purchase to balance it out. But it was tough feeling like I’d failed. Tough having to tell myself no, you can’t have it. I think it helps knowing I can’t “cheat” when I have these either-or decisions to make.

As he traveled through the joys of cutting back and realizing what needed to go, the budget was pretty clear; all or nothing, he had to change. The spending couldn’t be sustained. The credit cards were maxed. The student loans were tapped.

When I had literally $0 mid-way through December, I started to realize what had to be done. And magically, I was able to change my expectations, get a roommate, cancel many unnecessary things (gym membership, no more buying expensive proteins, no more consumer reports, got Comcast to lower my cable bill, etc). I’ve been able to set up a budget and stick to it. I’ve been able to track every expense, because I finally HAVE to do this. Years of attempts and failures, but finally having “skin in the game” lead to success.

Changing, fixing your budget is more difficult than it sounds

To spout out the mantras and trite cliches that simply say, “Change your budget to take in more than you spend,” can sometimes be more difficult than it sounds.

Adjusting my budget wasn’t a small change, it’s a giant lifestyle change that’s hitting nearly every area of my life. I needed to change my workout routine since I cut my gym routine. I have to get a roommate and change my living situation. I have to get used to rarely eating out. I have to change leisure time since I can’t really afford 20$+ to take Susie and me to the theater. My choice was to bottom out with no money in May again, or finally get my shit together. And for now, I’m on the get your shit together path.

Like many who’ve participated on this site, asked me, or debated online, the line between frugality and simply stingy/cheap is sometimes a gray area. Being cheap can sometimes elicit a value question.

A big question a lot of this leaves me with is how to be frugal without being cheap. I think there is some overlap, but that they are different. Frugal to me means cutting back, often not being fully satisfied at the reward of more savings. Cheap to me often reflects a self-interested style of frugality. In my mind, I think of friends who would leave little to no tip at restaurants, try to get everyone else to pay for them, continually try to ask “are you going to finish that.” As I’m making huge changes, maybe I’m trying to find a way to stay congruent with my values in the process.

By sharing my friend’s hard lessons learned and insights along the way, I hope it gives you a window into a world. What you do with that window is yours.

Special thanks to my close friend and confidant. Really appreciate being able to share your growth and story with my readers. All names have been changed, but you know who you are!

Filed Under: Loans Tagged With: Budget, cheap, Credit Card, debt, financial aid, Frugal, graduate school, loans, management, money, relationships, student, Student Loans

Media Confuses Consumerism And Ads With Success

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The Daily Show’s Jon Stewart makes fun of CNN’s walk to the couch ads

Reader happiness versus advertising revenue

This is infuriating and intoxicating all at once. When you start a site and begin to build an audience, monetary consequences become more important. There’s serious money to be made. If I place in-text ads in front of my readers’ eyeballs, I risk alienating them while also skyrocketing my earnings. As an author, I constantly wonder what’s more important: A comfortable reading experience or pure profits?

This equation is delicate for any news source. Without ads, they cannot operate. Share too much, and you may lose your avid readership. There’s been a push in recent years to make ads more seamless – an effortless part of the process of consuming media.

CNN took this to the extreme recently, as they turned a simple walk to a couch into an advertising opportunity. A satirical critique from The Daily Show’s Jon Stewart ripped the idea apart and brutally made fun of the network. Clearly, the balance and boundary for advertisements had been crossed. Shortly after displaying this depraved attempt at money making, CNN cancelled the in-show advertising segment.

Ad revenue is falsely, grotesquely linked to success

A recent article in Business Insider catalogued the many ways Android was failing in comparison to the iOS/iPhone platform. In particular, the article focused on the Christmas shopping season purchases between the platforms:

Apple users on iPhone and iPad accounted for five times what Google’s Android users did when it comes to online shopping.

This is certainly a story and interesting financial question: Why are Google’s Android users spending less than their iPhone carrying friends? But here’s where many media outlets take this one step further and assert an ad-friendly correlation that doesn’t necessarily exist:

What the heck is wrong with Android users?

Android people just seem to be sitting on their hands. Their phones are just as powerful as iPhones are. They have bigger screens, too. But they don’t do anything with them.

Simon Khalaf, CEO of Flurry, one of the larger mobile ad companies…had a surprising answer for us: Androids are simply dumbphone replacement devices…

…It seems like the users on the majority of the island aren’t interested in modern life.

By not supporting big business – as much – this Christmas, Android users are being vilified. This contempt for a population seems to be solely motivated by advertising revenue. They’re described as inferior and worthless in the eyes of this media outlet. Why look for Android users when iPhone users will buy more?

Unfortunately, this is an incorrect, vapid conclusion. The author seems to stop short of actually looking for reasonable conclusions about what is happening. Androids make up about 80% of all smartphones. There’s a great diversity in Android users, as many are more affordable than iPhones. Androids can be applied to less expensive prepaid cell phone plans and off contract. These options cater to a different, more frugal audience than iPhones. Shouldn’t these frugal users be exalted for spending less?

Apple appeals to many audiences, but its affordability is better suited to the wealthy. The company’s margins are well known for being industry setting limits, with some products garnering 50% or more markup on actual build value. The person that buys an iPhone is likely in a different income class than an Android user.

But all these reasons are simply a defense of Android users, and that misses the greater point. Larger media outlets often get distracted by revenue and profits as the sole barometer of success. These news sources even go so far as critiquing less ad-friendly executives as being childish.

Embrace ads and be revered by Wall Street

If you’re not developing a way to monetize your platform, Wall Street isn’t interested. When technology darlings rise beyond startup status and begin entertaining an initial public offering (IPO), investors analyze the earning potential. For instance, Snapchat may have a multi-billion dollar valuation, but it’s not making money yet.

Angel investors have pumped hundreds of millions into the company for development. The future looks similar to Facebook: mine user data without explicit permission or choice (accept the terms or get off the app), and plaster intrusive ads that capture your attention and wallet. But who decided Wall Street was the bastion for business acumen and respect for users’ wants?

This is a narrative that major media outlets across the board tend to support. One of my favorite websites, The Verge, suggested that Mark Zuckerberg was childish when he didn’t support advertising as much. Likewise, they suggested that the major turnaround in Facebook’s stock was associated with his new embrace of ads:

Zuckerberg decided to buckle down, grow up, and start focusing on the nitty-gritty of the business.

He got trusted engineers to give up coding and start working on spreadsheets and mobile ads instead. He began taking face-to-face meeting with important clients like McDonalds. And he embraced more ads in both the news feed and in the company’s mobile products. The result has been a strong turnaround that has boosted the stock to new highs. (The Verge)

The Verge’s article seems to portray an atypical business desire as wrong or inferior. Zuckerberg is painted as an idiot that needed to “grow up” to recognize the basic business needs. Instead of being considered a hero for trying to stand up to investors, the media tends to focus on something that supports the mass-media-advertising model.

Consumerism, ads, and real progress

Corporate America would like you to think you’re merely an employee that aids profitability. Why exist if you are not contributing to a bottom line? As a company, there’s this assumption that you should take any and all profits you make – no matter the cost. But there are limits to corporate greed, and a backlash may result from poor planning.

CNN was privy to a major critique of their strange advertising practices. Clearly, a line was crossed. It’s easy to confuse advertising revenues with success. Honestly, when I have months that make me less money on Frugaling, I wonder what I did wrong. Fortunately, there’s a healthier reality that includes the users’ perspective. Success should be gaged in sharing and commenting rather than the profit model.

When your goal is a powerful reading experience – versus profits – you’ll likely end up with more in your pocket anyways.

Filed Under: Social Justice Tagged With: ad, ads, CNN, Consumer, Facebook, Frugal, Jon Stewart, money, readers, revenue, Salon, Snapchat, Tech, The Daily Show, The Verge, User, walk to the couch

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